Approval Junkies

Reality check. I think the whole world of social media works so powerfully because it feeds into this internal desire we have for approval from other people. “Just a few more ‘likes’ and I’ll feel better, or I know I did a good job.” Refreshing to be reminded in this article by Ken Baker what true approval is and should be in our lives. And how freeing it is.

Dr Ken Baker

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It’s hard to kick the approval habit.

Everyone wants to be wanted. Everybody enjoys being enjoyed. Everyone appreciates those warm fuzzy feelings when someone speaks well of you.

But when you live your life seeking the opinion and approval of others, you become enslaved. In The Moon and Sixpence, Somerset Maugham wrote: “Man’s desire for the approval of his fellows is so strong, his dread of their censure so violent, that he himself has brought his enemy (conscience) within his gates; and it keeps watch over him, vigilant always in the interests of its master to crush any half-formed desire to break away from the herd.”

Life is simply too short to waste time waiting for other people’s approval on how you live it. Before long that sense of slavery will kick in, and you’ll constantly need verbal affirmation, smiles, nods and approbation until the need for external acceptance…

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